“Are we not counted of him strangers?”
The full verse · Genesis 31:15 · KJV
Are we not of him ? for he hath us, and hath also our .
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Their husband Jacob, who has just relayed God’s command to leave Laban’s household and return to Canaan.
Why It Was Asked
The purpose behind the questionRachel and Leah use this rhetorical question to voice their grievance against their father Laban and justify their willingness to leave with Jacob. By framing their complaint as a question, they invite Jacob to confirm what they already believe; that Laban has treated them as outsiders rather than daughters, selling them for bride-price and consuming the wealth that should have been their inheritance.
The Response
What Scripture recordsJacob did not verbally respond to their rhetorical question. Instead, Rachel and Leah immediately answered their own question by declaring their agreement with Jacob’s plan, affirming that whatever God had told him to do was right, and giving him permission to depart (Genesis 31:16).
The Bigger Picture
Where this fits in God's storyRachel and Leah’s question expresses both hurt and clarity. The Hebrew nokhriyoth (foreigners) carries the sting of permanent alienation; they have been reduced to outsiders in their own father’s house. Rather than preserving the bride-price Jacob paid through fourteen years of labor, Laban devoured (akal) it entirely, leaving his daughters without inheritance or security. The question form serves a rhetorical purpose: it invites Jacob to witness their justified complaint while simultaneously announcing their verdict against Laban. They are not asking for information but declaring their grievance and aligning themselves with Jacob’s God-directed departure. Theologically, this moment reveals how covenant loyalty sometimes requires breaking from family systems that dishonor God’s design for justice and generosity.
When family wounds run deep, sometimes God calls you away to heal. Rachel and Leah recognized their father’s exploitation and chose covenant loyalty over toxic familiarity. If you’re trapped in relationships where you’re treated as a commodity rather than a cherished child of God, remember that Christ calls you into true belonging. As Psalm 27:10 promises, ‘Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.’ God doesn’t waste your pain. He redeems it by drawing you closer to Himself and the family He’s building. Trust His voice when He leads you toward freedom.
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