“Why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?”
The full verse · Proverbs 5:20 · KJV
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Son.. The addressee is Solomon’s literal or figurative son, representing any young man receiving wisdom instruction, with wider application to all God’s people.
Why It Was Asked
The purpose behind the questionThe father employs a rhetorical question to confront the illogic of adultery, making the son feel the absurdity rather than merely hear a prohibition. By asking rather than commanding, he invites self-examination and ownership of moral choice. The question format also expresses paternal bewilderment at behavior that contradicts everything taught in the preceding verses about marital fidelity.
The Response
What Scripture recordsNo direct response is recorded, as this rhetorical question functions as the climax of the father’s extended warning. The silence invites the son’s internal reckoning with the question’s logic.
The Bigger Picture
Where this fits in God's storyThe father’s question confronts the son with the irrationality of adultery by using vivid language of intoxication and embrace. The Hebrew shagah (to reel, stagger) pictures someone drunk and disoriented, suggesting that sexual sin produces moral stupor that obscures consequences. Why frame this as a question rather than a command? Because questions engage the will and conscience, forcing the son to supply his own answer and thereby own the moral truth. The parallel terms ‘forbidden woman’ and ‘adulteress’ emphasize both the external prohibition and the internal covenant betrayal involved. This question stands as the rhetorical climax of chapter five’s extended contrast between the faithful wife and the seductive stranger. Theologically, it frames sexual purity not merely as rule-keeping but as a choice between wisdom and folly, between life-giving covenant and death-dealing deception.
When temptation dangles forbidden intimacy before you, ask yourself the father’s question out loud. Why exchange the covenant partner God has given for temporary intoxication that leaves you spiritually bankrupt? The question cuts through rationalization by exposing the trade’s absurdity. Every believer faces ‘forbidden’ alternatives to God’s good gifts, career ambitions that destroy family, friendships that compromise holiness, entertainment that numbs spiritual appetite. Like the son in Proverbs, we must let penetrating questions interrupt our drift toward destruction. James 4:4 warns that friendship with the world is enmity with God, making every choice a covenant matter. The grace here is that God gives wisdom to those who ask, offering escape routes from every temptation and the promise that His ways lead to life.
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